First time parents find themselves short of time, space, sleep and sex. But there is one thing they won’t find themselves short of – advice. From the aaya in the hospital, to the stranger in the road, to your over-paid maid; everyone will have at-least one advice for you. Luckily you can easily ignore their advice. It is the advice from your close friends and families that you will find hard to ignore. And you know what is worse? Two mothers together, with totally opposite advices. Yes you are trapped, you have reached the limit of your temper and you are about to burst. Your ego might make you want to shout, ‘It is our child, you have had your share of parenting, let us have ours’. That's exactly how we felt.
Take a deep breath, relax, and ask yourself; what is more important, your ego or your child? Anger never helps; respecting your parents is a way of ensuring that your child learns to respect you. Your parent’s advice only means they care. Moreover, some of their advices are really worth listening, for others there is a simple trick. This is where your doctor comes to rescue. Tell them that the doctor told you not to do it. It always works! Sometimes a lie is worth a thousand truth.
Listen to all advices and cleverly use your veto power to rule out the horrible ones. At the end it is your instincts that matter, even more than your logic. In the last post I wished if babies came with instruction manual. Truth is they do. It is already implanted in the brains of the parents. Listen to it and believe it even more than the doctor’s advice, because doctor’s advice change with time, space and society. During the feminist movements doctors advised bottle and formula feeding. Now with the green movements and movements to go back to nature, breastfeeding is back on agenda. There was a time when doctors advised to let the babies sleep on their tummies so that they don’t choke, now they advice that they must sleep on their back. There was a time when oil message was mandatory for babies, now they advice to avoid it. You see what I mean?
Every baby is different; everyone grows at their own pace. Different advice works for different babies. Listen to yourself and find the one that suites your baby best. Here is the end of my advice. Use your veto power to over-rule it if you like.